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4 Things Calm People Quit
Want to become calmer? Don’t do these 4 things.
I clicked ‘refresh’ and all my edits from today are gone. I had worked on this the entire day.
This can’t be true — I almost cried and I felt sick to the stomach.
The voice in my head had a short diva moment like in the Snickers advertisements.
‘The universe is against me. It will take me hours to redo this. I’m no able to do this again, it was so hard to finish this. The project is doomed….’
Then I jumped in, focused on my breath, and calmed myself.
The voice immediately changed from diva to diplomat — assessed the situation, made a plan, delivered a motivational pep talk, and moved on.
I’ll contact customer service and see if they can help and if not I’ll redo it. Every time I redo something it turns out even better. I can do hard things and I have grid. Nothing can stop me.
Who is this person?
Being able to regulate yourself in situations like this is a true superpower.
Want to be able to stay calm when life gives you lemons? Then stop doing these 4 things and do this instead.
As Robert Fulghum says:
Peace is not something you wish…
